Sunday, December 12, 2010

Christmas Shoes



Have you ever heard a song that calls to your soul? Well for me this is one of those songs that always brings tears to my eyes and at the same time makes me feel happy. Listen to the words of this song and create your own Christmas magic.

CHRISTMAS MIRACLES

Hello again my fellow readers, it's been awhile now since i last posted anything. Sorry about the delay, i have been occupied with school work and other tasks. Well am back now and i wanted to touch base on the holiday season. So, Christmas is right around the corner. Have you thought about what you can do to make someone happy this Christmas? Christmas is the one day that we believe in miracles or we can create something close to a miracle. Well for this Christmas i urge each and every one of you to create a miracle of some sort in someone’s life. It doesn't matter how big or small the deed is, it's the effort that counts and the satisfaction of knowing that you made someone happy this year. Christmas is about sharing and sharing is caring. So plz find you nearest organization or even a church and ask about how you can be of some help this holiday. Donate anything you can afford. Again it's the effort that counts and knowing you make someone happy will bring great joy to you and your family. So reader go out there and create and miracle. And at the end of the day plz feel free to come tell us about the miracle you perform this year to make someone have a merry Christmas. So for now am off to think of ways i can help bring Christmas joy to my family and community. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

What Are You Thankful For


Hello again good friends from near and far. So it's another week of blogging again. Hope all is well with you all. So, this week is the big turkey day in the states called Thanksgiving. What a day of food orgy and well family times. Well first off before i start i just want to let you guys know of my big "oopps" moment involving thanksgiving years ago. Many years ago, upon my first year in the states, while attending Elementry School, i had the misfortune of thinking "thanksgiving" was a school event. I was so excited about it i went around school asking friends and classmates what are they going to wear for thanksgiving and what church is the service taking place at. To my greatest disappointment at the end of the day i came to find out that "thanksgiving" was a day of feasting and being thankful for things in one’s life. During that week, i came to learn a lot about the celebration of eating that was brought on by the pilgrims of the new colonies. So to cut long story short i thought thanksgiving was like back in my country that involved marching or a parade of the different schools.

So many years have gone by since that unfaithful year of my first thanksgiving in the states. Another year has come to an end and its thanksgiving again. One of the biggest question that many pose around this festive is what are you thankful for this year. Sometimes many don’t know how to respond to this question and others don’t have an inkling of the meaning behind this ole festive moment. To some it’s all about the endless amount of food and partying that comes along with it.

To start off i will like to say this year has been a really trying time for my family and i. we've had all sorts of downfalls and have encountered one problem after the other. To our amazement we have come through with our heads held high and our dignity intact. During these trying moments i have come to associate myself with this saying “if you think you have it bad there is always someone out there that has it worst". These are words that my mother had drill into my head when ever i have the urge of breaking down and about to give up on it all. So for this thanksgiving i would just like to say i am thankful to have a family such as mine, it might not be much but all the same it’s my family.

But mostly what i am grateful or thankful for is having a Mother such as mine. Within these past couple of months i have come to see my mother as an idol. My mother is a woman of great strength. She is the mom that will try and see the good in everything broken and try to fix it. She is the mother that puts a roof over her family’s head by working endless hours at the hospital and still has time to come home and take care of the family as well. I am thankful for the strong faith she has in God. No matter how bad a situation is my mother always has her faith to see her through it all, and at the end of the day she comes out of it with a smiling face. She is a strong woman and i shall strive to be like her every day. So i shall ask the good lord to bless this wonderful woman with good health and the strength to carry on and to never give up.

So my dear readers for this week, if you by any chance get the opportunity to read this blog, kindly drop a comment and also tell me what you are mostly thankful for this Thanksgiving season. Ever little thoughts and prayer counts. So open you heart to your love ones and be thankful for having them around this year. Happy Thanksgiving everyone. That’s all for now and see you next week.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The One


Hello everyone, sorry it’s been a few days since i posted anything. Let’s just say i have been having the blog blues. So since have been away a lot has taken place and so here i am to fill you guys in on what’s been on my mind. So here i was today racking my brains for an idea to strike me or something to put an end to this "blog blues". Then it hit me, just last night to late morning, while i was having a chat with a few chat buddies. one of the members was gracious enough to let me know that i am one of the ladies in the room the caught his fancy; and that he is single and ready to mingle. Not knowing how to respond to his revelation i opt for laughter instead. Lately i have had countless inquires from guys about either wanting to be a friend or more than a friend. i haven't been able to give any of them a suitable answer that will be logical enough to turn their attention to someone else. My biggest excuse i could come up with was "you are not my type". So my fellow readers’ plz help me understand this statement of "not my type". What is it really that we seek in a partner? Are we spending all our time looking for the ideal one? Is there such a thing as "the ONE"? Well welcome to my world of puzzlement, as i myself am still trying to find this elusive one.

So while you take the time reading this blog i want you to search yourself and answer this question "what is your ideal partner"? I sure would like to know what others are looking for, hey who knows my leaving a comment and responding to the question you just might find your own "the ONE". So anyway am out for now. Will try to post something else shortly or respond to your comments. Bye for now.



Monday, November 15, 2010

Mario: BREAK UP

12 Signs That Shows You Should Break Up With Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend or Spouse

Hello again, well it’s been a few days since I posted anything. I have been trying to work out the kinks of this blogging system. So far so good as you can see it's coming along nicely. Well anyway, I just wanted to post an article that I think might be helpful to some of my readers. Some of you might agree with this post while others might not, but all that same love it or hate it, its all information.

I was listening to a radio show earlier today and one of the conversation or topic was about why people like to remain in relationships that are just not fruitful. This topic was mostly geared towards females in particular. They tend to be in relationships that should I say is "toxic" to them.
During this panel discussion, many areas where covered. But, the area that I was more intrigue about was how to get out of these relationships that these ladies find themselves in. Most of the time, we find ourselves in these relationships due to what we gain or tend to lose without them.

Some people are in these relationships for variety of reasons; such as fear of being alone, fear of change, the comfort of the familiar vs. the fear of the unknown, financial reasons, children, religious beliefs, etc. think about it people, why are we kidding ourselves ? People if you are in a relationship that you feel unsafe or it’s just going downhill, my best advice is for you to take a hike. Please don’t try to stay in it with hopes of things getting better or you love the person. If you know you cannot get out of it on your own try to seek help from family members, support groups or even government organizations.
 Anyway people am not posting this article in other to destroy or interfere into ones relationship, am just blogging about signs to look for when you are in a dead-end relationship. I believe it depends on the situation it’s up to you to take whatever action that’s necessary for you to take.

After the show was over I decided to get online and do some research to see what I can find. Well I found an article that was giving 12steps to look for or reasons why you should break up with your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse. The most amazing thing happened while I was reading this article. I realized that about four of those signs where signs I have associated with during a relationship I recently went through.

So my dear readers I urge you to read these signs and try to find yourself in this post. Anyway thats all for now, please feel free to leave a comment and helpful hints as to how I can improve on my blogging. As you are aware am still an amateur at this. Enjoy and catch you guys later!!!!!

12 Signs To Show That You Should Break Up With Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend or Spouse

Here are the 12 signs to show that you should break up with your significant other. This article was written by: Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD. 

1.    If you’ve been hurt physically.
Ignore excuses and apologies; if violence has surfaced, it will surface again. Get out at the very first strike. This goes for men, too. If your partner, pushes, kicks, shoves or slaps you and/or throw things at you; GET OUT. Physical violence isn’t acceptable from either sex.

2.    When you’re totally incompatible.
If your partner’s dream is to travel the road as a wandering musician and you’re a city person with ambitions, one or both of you will probably be unhappy if you stay together. Relationships have a better chance at being successful with people whom we share similar values and goals.

3.    When he or she isn’t even close to your fantasy.
You may be tempted to stay with someone just because they’re available and willing, but this is generally a bad idea. There should be some chemistry in order to have a successful future.

4.    When he or she just can’t say I love you.
Even if there’s chemistry, if someone can’t express their love for you with affectionate gestures, nurturing, and the words “I love you,” you’ll never really feel satisfied with them.

5.    When he or she just isn’t there for you.
If you’ve been together a while and can’t count on him or her to come get you if your car breaks down, or to attend family or work events, then you don’t have a solid relationship.

6.    When you’re afraid to express yourself.
Being in love should bring out the best in you. It should help you to be less self-conscious and make you more open and alive. If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells all the time because your partner is emotionally volatile and verbally abusive, it’s probably a sign that this is not the right relationship for you.

7.    When your self-esteem is suffering.
If your relationship is demeaning, makes you feel bad about yourself, leaves you feeling like you’re not heard, and you’re getting more criticism than praise, then it’s time to end it. A good relationship makes you feel respected and loved, worthwhile and good about yourself.

8.    When he or she is a philanderer.
Serial philanderers usually have a pattern of behavior. If you discover your mate has that kind of history, don’t believe “never again.” The heartache and torment will never end.

9.    When he or she commits an unforgivable act.
There are single acts so horrid that they should mean the END. If he or she sleeps with your best friend, is disrespectful to your family, consistently criticizes and undermines you, stands you up at the altar, or commits murder, end the relationship with no second chances.

10.    When the same problems recur again and again.
Loving someone doesn’t always guarantee you can spend the rest of your lives together. If you’ve broken up and reunited and you’re still having the same fights, the same problems or different versions of the same problem, especially if you’ve tried relationship counseling, it’s probably best to end the relationship. Saying, “things will be better” and actually making things better by changing attitudes and behaviors aren’t the same thing. The former is lip service and mollification; the latter is growth.

11.    When he or she says, “I need some space.”
The relationship seems to have stalled and your partner says something like, “I want time,” or “I want space,” or “I think we should see other people,” or “I need to devote myself to my career.” Almost always, what he or she means is “I want out.” These things happen, don’t drag it out. You might say, “Sounds like you want to break up. I’m sorry you feel that way, but I understand. I hope we can remain friends.”

12.    When the relationship just doesn’t progress.
Relationships have a natural progression. If you’re not progressing and you can’t pinpoint the cause, you might want to try couple’s counseling. However, if he or she won’t go, or goes but doesn’t think there’s a problem or can’t see his or her role in the problem, and/or uses counseling to blame and trash you while exonerating him- or herself, the relationship is coming to an end.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

The Beginning


Wow!!!! What a title "the Beginning" it says so much. Well my fellow readers don't be scared I promise not to go into details of how I came to be in this world. OK here we go!!!! Boy I don't even know where to start, but since the title of this post is the beginning I guess I should start from there. 


OK when I say "the Beginning" I am referring to the beginning of my blogging days. Come to think of it is right now. Yea meeeee. This is so weird, but like a good and dear friend mention to me earlier, writing a blog is not like am writing for the New York Times it’s more like me just jotting down what’s on my mind. So people my blog will simply be about all that happens in my world and other worlds out there. Hahahaha.


On a serious note, I am totally clueless as to what a blog is and what I should be writing about. I am open to ideas people. I will try to focus mainly on what's going on in our everyday life or what I observe in my everyday life. I want you the readers to help me come up with things to talk about. I want to create and discover myself in this world of my own. So in other for this to happen I need you the readers to read and live comments on any of the posts. 


I also take criticism very well. It will empower my writing skills so plz help me discover this new fad of mine. I shall try to post a blog at least every week. sooooo...people welcome aboard and I hope you stay long on this amazing journey of self-discovery that we shall embark on. Oh here is something to live you guys thinking about "who am I". Simple words but yet it lives you wondering about one’s self.